swordlesbianism:

Every other straight man ever singing about a woman: wow baby you’re so sexy I love you because your body is sexy

Hozier, an intellectual and lesbian ally: I am a bird of prey and you are a sharp spike upon which I impale small rodents

glumshoe:

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if i ever reblog the same picture of a cute animal that i reblogged like last week dont worry, i know, its just still cute

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goathornsandblackwool:

Like when I say ‘white people need to talk to bigots because bigots don’t listen to minorities’ I did not say ‘and it will be easy and fun’.

I know it’s easier to be like ~boo hooo the world is so evil and there’s nothing I can dooo~ but it’s statistically and experientially understood, just by fucking 3rd grade logic, that a bigot will be less amenable towards the subject of their bigotry.

Bigots don’t just ~not like~ minorities- they don’t think we’re human. It’s not about whether they agree with you or not in the moment. Like, pause.

Understand this:

Calls to action for white people to oppose bigotry are calls for white people to position themselves as opposition. THEY ARE NOT CALLS FOR ~SUCCESSFUL DEBATE~

Do not think you are expected nor are you likely to just go around arguing with bigots and they’ll go ‘I agree with you because you’re white!’. 

Your job is to be sandpaper.

Every time they open their mouths to make a bigoted joke, or a bigoted remark, or post their shitty bigoted opinion online, you grate against them.

Your job is to make it hard to be a bigot or a fascist. Your job is to ostracize them. Your job is to speak over them the way they love to speak over minorities. Your job is to make it difficult, lonely, annoying, stressful and unwelcome to be a bigot.

When you are white and silent, You are making it easy. You are just letting it happen.

When minorities speak up for themselves, they are in danger, and the bigot just writes off our arguments as the chattering of ‘lessers’.

You, white people, whether you think so or not, are their peers.

Specifically those of you who look and talk like, to an outside observation, your average white american.

Bigots think you all think like them, but are too scared to say it. That, or you’re too much of a coward to stop them.

YOUR JOB IS TO PUSH BACK AND PROVE THEM WRONG.

YOUR JOB IS TO SEPARATE THEM FROM THEIR OWN COMMUNITY AT LARGE.

There are devils among you and if you want to stop being associated with them then fucking prove it. You’re pretty much the only people who can.

Damn this is so important. SPREAD THIS YALL

If you’re white and feel like you have no idea where to start. Take a breather because this one causes shit and gets exhausting

YOUR SHITTY FAMILIES

This isn’t supposed to sound like,, against this. It might, idk.

So my dad makes racist jokes constantly. I try to call him out on it, but when I do my whole family acts like I’m some “radical sjw bad evil” and it almost feels like he gets more support when I call him out? How would I go about doing it in a more productive manner? Or do I do it just for him to know someone thinks it’s not ok ?

A lot of people understandably have this sort of thought process about it. And your worry that he’s getting more support is understandable, too. But listen to me, please:

You are supposed to support victims of bigotry because it’s the right thing to do. Because it’s YOUR truth. Even if no one in your family agrees, doing the right thing is just plain human decency and honesty.

Now, to speak to your unique situation, a consideration that I think a lot of people haven’t had the chance to make:

  Speaking out in defense of your father’s chosen victims is one thing. Speaking out in support of said victims is another. If it seems like fighting your dad on this rallies his Bigot Backup Crew, consider this question: How often do you speak openly in praise, favor and support of minorities? 

Another: Do you respond to your father with questions? Or do you make accusations? Ask him why he says that. Not even as if you’re hurt or upset. In fact… Listen. I am a person who would risk bodily harm to use a sharp tongue, so fair warning please make this consideration of your own will bc I don’t know you or your father but I will say this approach can hurt egos and thus it could cause extra tension.

1. Ask your father why he says the things he says. Ask flatly. Not defensively. Not emotionally. Not because you don’t care, but because he is clearly, in this situation your inferior. He is not smarter or wiser, in his bigotry he has shown his opinions to be dull and disappointing. Ask him as if you don’t care what his answer is- the ball may end up in your court, leading him to defensively support his argument. It doesn’t matter what he says here unless it’s an apology. Whatever he says, if its negative, just judge him silently. But repeat this.

2. Remind your father of his fear. If he is a bigot he is afraid. He is small and scared. He will not admit this, and does not want it brought up. He will fight the idea. But it will weaken him, because he will feel the lack of respect. To him, ‘respect’ (being feared) and power are huge parts of his identity. Small comments like ‘what are you afraid of?’ and ‘why are you threatened all the time?’ will upset his stance. Be patient.

3. Comment openly in praise of minorities. Little things. Big things. Not even for his sake, but for the sake of expressing your support. Defense isn’t everything. Let him know where your heart lies.

Ultimately, again, this is about sandpaper. Your father has been raised up and surrounded by bigots and hasn’t had many situations where the response to his bullshit was ‘that’s fucking ridiculous Karl’. Keep in mind my last suggestions are swords, and should be used carefully. Masculine egos are fragile and when they crack, they sometimes cut whoever is near.

I’ll always reblog this because its the only way to defeat bigotry on ANY level, be it racism, Islamophobia, anti-LGBTQIA+, Anti Romani racism, Antisemitism, ableism, fatphobia, the list goes on. Isolation, ostracism, rejection of their vile ideology can only come from their peers. It’s not a heroic feat, or a heady debate where one vanquishes one’s opponents with dazzling arguments. It unglamorous and bloody hard work, but somebody’s got to do it. That’s us. ✊👍👏

Put another way: you’re not supposed to WIN. You’re supposed to show them that THEY HAVEN’T.

Reblogging for the last two comments

The other common wisdom is: you’re not arguing to convince HIM, you’re arguing for the benefit of the other people in the room - who will either gain courage from you to do likewise if they’re like-minded; or learn that you’re going to make life uncomfortable for them if they act like your dad, if they aren’t.

I got the words “jacuzzi” and “yakuza” confused.

reallyfunnyshortjokes:

Now I’m in hot water with the Japanese mafia.

kurtwagnermorelikekurtwagnerd:

kurtwagnermorelikekurtwagnerd:

trans people genuinely pick the kinds of names cis people wish they had but could never pull off…. and when we pick a name that could be considered common we still wear it better than any cis person could dream of…. shoutout to us we rule

a trans guy named seth can and will defeat a cis guy named seth in both coolness level and physical combat eleven times out of ten.

spacehunter-m:

red delicious apples are a waste of agricultural resources